Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Restful and afraid....

As the medicine enters my 11yr old son, putting his shaking and terrified body to sleep.....a tear rolls down my cheek. Thoughts of regret about the choices I have made, begin to to throw me into a downward spiral of guilt.

"What have I done?" I brought children into this world that are going to suffer endlessly from the pain that NF brings.

The thing about NF, is that it not only affects the physical outward body....It torments the soul. Breaking the spirits of people, who have the potential to become so much.

This is why I work so hard at building my children up, from the inside--out. Fueling their worth, and protecting their spirit. I will not let this monster grab hold of my babies.

I don't dwell on the fact that NF is a part of my life....In fact, I am trying to do the opposite....why not use NF to make me stronger? Wouldn't that teach that nasty, tumor filled beast a lesson?

I used to hide from NF....never admitting I had it, or that it could affect me. I had that "It can't happen to me" attitude. I threw the covers over the NF and pretended it didn't exist. I was ashamed....afraid.

Now, seeing my own children facing the unknown of NF....I want to let them know, that they don't have to be afraid. I am here. I will guide them through the darkness. Like Jesus, who is always here for us....

I will not continue to be afraid. Instead I will find strength and move foward, even during the times I am weak. My children are looking to me, to help them through the darkness.

So, as my son opens his eyes, still groggy from anesthsia, I hold his hand....and tell him how brave he is....and how truly blessed I am to have him in my life. At that moment.....I have no regrets.....just endless joy.

Saturday, June 20, 2009


This stupid disease. There are some days, that I feel like such a freak. I find myself saying things like, "It's not fair!", "Why me?.....Why this?" I know I will never really know the answers to these questions...and damn pisses me off so much!
The variability of NF is what gets me so angry. Why are some people affected in ways like Reggie Bibbs? Then others, you wouldn't know they have NF at all........
Does Reggie ask the same quesitons I ask? Does he find his life "unfair"? I wonder. I look at people more affected by NF, then feel like an ass for saying anything negative. But as I get older....I am seeing NF become more a part of my life.
I have embraced this NF. (I use the term embrace loosely) But I have come to a point in my life, where I need to stand for something....I want people to remember me for more than just the woman who birthed six kids and suffered financially, her whole life.
I want to be the woman who stood up for a disease that is cruel and relentless. I want people to see in me a strength. I want to be a fighter .. a lover of life.
The tumors may cover my body.....but I will NOT let them take over my soul! My heart will take action and be open to anyone who needs a friend...
I will be strong for my children, who will no doubt, suffer from the wrath of NF. I will remind them daily, how beautiful they are....and how proud I am, to be their mommy.
I will hold the hands of my children, during the blood draws, MRI's, surgery...etc
I will NOT let them see me crying for them. Instead...they will see a strong woman, who doesn't times that are hard.
When I, myself am sick, or tired, or in pain from NF.....I will still find the time to snuggle and tak with my children.
See.....NF.....YOU have NOTHING over me! I will carry on with my life. YOU are a pathetic little nothing. And one day...I know, we will find a way to kill you. So that others never have to face you.
I win.
You Lose.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Here we go again...

After the symposium, I began feeling quite lucky. I prayed to God that this NF would stay "mild" and hey, I'm up for it totally going away too!!

Rachel is doing fine since the MRI and eye exam.....It seems the neurologist just wants to watch things. I was expecting that answer and have no problem with it.....I just don't understand, how something so common can have no cure or treatments.
Rachel has a fighting spirit and I am so thankful for that! She hs no problems doing the medically necessary things....(mostly cause she knows she has her Mama all to herself!)
My spunky little girl is so brave..I am so proud of her! I know we have the power inside of us to beat this....
Here we go again...........
My son has been having heaches...debilitating ones, that send him to his bed. He covers is pale body with a blanket and pulls his knees to his chest. This is one of the signs to look out for, when one has a disease like NF. I go into his room frequently to check on him, and to give him a dose of pain medication.

When day 2...3...4 and 5 go by and there isn't much change in him.....we head to the ER. I always find it interesting, when trying to explain NF to the Drs. It seems that ALL have heard of the disease, but MOST have no real clue about how incredibly random and devastating it can be. The Drs there wouldn't even address the NF. Stupid, clueless-idiots!
We spent 5 hours in the Emergency room that day, and walked away with the diagnoses of bacterial pnuemonia and migrains. The Dr. there told me to have his primary order and MRI of my sons brain. So here we go again....
It's one thing to have to undergo medical procedures yourself, but to watch your children be put through these kinds of things is very heart wrenching.
No matter what the results of the upcoming MRI, I am confident we will be okay. One thing about NF,
This "watch and wait" attitude some Drs have is pathetic.....Yeah---Let's wait until something bad happens before doing anything....? CRAP.!! Why do people go for cancer screens? ANd breast exams? It's not because they alread have something going on.....its because they want to catch something before it happens.
Anyway...I refuse to let this NF get to us....its here--yes I know its a reality....but it sure won't beat lives on the bottom of my shoes....and I am determined to squash the hell out of it one day!